9 types of narcissist

9 Types of Narcissist–How To Identify Them

By Noell Romatowski

How to identify 9 types of narcissist? Learn the different types so you can spot them in your life. Read this article by The Dating Bliss to learn more about the types of narcissist.

What Is A Narcissist?

I am sure you have heard this word and term used a lot these days especially in news headlines and social media.

What exactly is a narcissist?

Narcissism is the pursuit of gratification from vanity or egotistic admiration of one’s idealized self-image and attributes.

Do you know anyone or maybe a few people whom fit this definition?

In Psychology Today, According to the DSM 5, the “most important characteristics of NPD [Narcissistic Personality Disorder] are grandiosity, seeking excessive admiration, and a lack of empathy,”

Narcissist don’t become this way overnight.It starts very early back in childhood due to their up bringing and surroundings.

Now let us cover 9 types of narcissist and believe me an individual can cross over into traits of the various types of narcissists.

Covert Narcissist

This is probably the hardest of all the narcissist to identify. Coverts are very subtle and less obvious. They crave someones admiration and attention, but they do it in a very low key and manipulative way that you may not even know it’s happening.

They might give back-handed compliments, or purposefully minimize their accomplishments or talents so that people will offer them reassurance of how talented they are.

It’s a constant need for ego being fed and make you feel small is the goal. Convert’s will even pretend to be victim of your behavior to make you reassure and praise them. They have extreme low self-esteem and even depression.

A covert narcissist will look like they are such a giving person, kind, donate to a cause but they make it known to everyone they did it.  They may post it on social media or do it in front you to receive compliments and praise.

Grandiose Narcissist

You know the person who walks into the room and you hear them from the hallway laughing, talking and usually with a group of people around them?

Very flamboyant, dominant and extreme extrovert that has to be seen and heard is the grandiose narcissist. They have a very inflated sense of self and usually want to always be the winner and the leader in everything they do.

They seem themselves as THE most important in the room, brags about literally everything and are the BEST at everything they do. They mock you, make fun of you and bring down your self worth to uplift their own.

He/She wants you to praise them and see them as a god like figure and that you desire to be just like them. They want to draw in a group of people whom they can always have at any time or a phone call or text away to feed and pump up their ego when needed.


Seductive Narcissist

The most suave individual you have ever met! Very complimenting, flirty and almost to a smothering level.

They make you feel so amazing about yourself, but all for their conquest is to win you over as a lover or sexually.

What they say to you is to get their way sexually. You could even hear them to someone else the exact same thing they just told you. There is no truth to the compliments and flirting.

Literally statements about how beautiful you are, you are so amazing in every way really is all to get what they want and once that is over it completely disappears. They may even act as if they don’t know you.

Extreme sexually advances, quickly sometimes, almost instantly upon meeting should make that red flag go up immediately!

Toxic Narcissist

Do you know anyone who constantly has drama in their lives and in turn creates so much drama in your life you don’t even know what just happened?

Toxic narcissist are continuous demanding your time and energy, texting and calling with all of their drama. When you don’t respond to them immediately or return they text or calls, they get extremely angry possibly even violent.

None of the narcissist you want to encounter, but this is one to sure run away from the first signs of anger show up with something even small.

Getting you fired from a job by calling 100 times or showing up demanding you speak to them is nothing short of actions of a toxic narcissist.

Understand that nothing will be their fault. They will shame you, blame you, and punish YOU for their horrible actions and reactions.

Run don’t walk and I mean run far away from these type of people!


Psychopathic Narcissist

Psychopathic narcissist, which is a type of toxic narcissist is a very unstable, angry, aggressive human. They are violent, manipulative and will stop at nothing to get what they feel they want and deserve.

They show zero empathy or remorse for their behavior and most times will blame others for their behavior. They will even state or feel as if they have been victimized.

He/She is always seeking admiration and will stop at nothing to receive it including step on other’s necks to get it if needed.

Really to a psychopathic narcissist everyone is a toy or game to them to see how far they can push someone or what they can get from them.

Think of the movie American Psycho with Christian Bale! RUNNNNNNNN

Closet Narcissist

Another tricky one to identify is the closet narcissist. They don’t inflict their personality on to others BUT they do believe in the characteristics of narcissism.

One can feel entitled, needing constant praise and their ego being fed 24/7 by whomever they can get it from and being extremely preoccupied with success and those who are successful.

Outward jealousy towards others in what they have or do and lacking empathy as well.

Most of these types of narcissist are actually codependent and leech on to someone they admire and feel that they are going to take them places and use them to they move on to the next person.


Exhibitionist Narcissist

Have you ever encountered someone who actually out right says they are a narcissist? I went on a date with a guy who that was one of the first things he said to me.” A lot of people say I am a narcissist and I pretty much think I am too.”

Let’s just say that date went very fast! WOW

So incredibly arrogant it oozes out of every word that they say and everything that they do. Very haughty and blatant about their self-centered behavior.

They need to constantly be in the spotlight and have the conversation on them. If it’s not, they actually get very comfortable and don’t know what to do with themselves and won’t even contribute or care about the conversation

Everything is a showy, look at me, look what I am doing ..praise me…aren’t I great …all part of the exhibitionist demeanor.

Somatic Narcissist

Completely obsessed with their bodies. Whether it be eternal youth and external appearances.

The one who has 101 selfies on their phone from the gym just that morning.

They spend most of their time in front of the mirror and taking selfies of themselves at the gym.

There was a guy’s profile the other day that literally had 24 pictures and 22 out of the 24 were different poses and pictures of himself in the gym locker room!!

Cerebral Narcissist

This narcissist is the smartest one in the room or on this planet. They try to impress you with their position of power or their accomplishments.

You know the one who has to mention 5 times in a 2-minute conversation that they went to Harvard!

Interesting fact about this type of narcissist is they feel taking care of their personal basic needs is beneath them.

They may be successful in their jobs, but when it comes to their homes or self-care like clipping their nails, brushing their teeth it may be sub par as they don’t feel or want to do those types of tasks.

The cerebral narcissist will also have an extreme difficult time being intimate or sexual. Sex is very mechanical and often lacking for this type of narcissist.

Share The Knowledge

I hope this article helps shed some light and knowledge on the different types of narcissist. A narcissistic can be a man or a woman, young or old. It doesn’t matter!

Don’t let a narcissistic bring your self-esteem or life to the point of no return. Most times it is best to walk away and never look back.

Share this article and information with family, friend, co-worker, boss or a loved one.

Anyone whom you think may benefit from being able to identify a narcissist in their life.

I wish this information was out years ago to save me some heartache and drama in my life therefore I am so grateful to share this with you.

Just know you are never alone!


Noell@The Dating Bliss

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