dating an older woman

Dating An Older Woman–The Good & Challenges

By Noell Romatowski

9.2.18-Are you attracted to or thought about dating an older woman? What are the good aspects and the challenges? Explore this article to learn more!

Dating An Older Women

Why would a man consider or want to date an older woman?

As anything in life there are good points and challenges to encounter. It is no different with dating an older woman.

I am now in early 40s and in the dating world that would be considered an older woman. I can’t believe it, but I embrace it!

It is not easy being in this category trying to date,as you are considered a cougar if you date younger and a gold digger if you date older.

It is still much more acceptable in society for a man to date a younger woman and talked about in more negative way if an older woman dates a younger man.

For example even in Hollywood, Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher,who many said it could be her son and it was just wrong.

All total BS, if you ask me and hopefully one day it will be viewed in a more positive light.

Who are we to truly judge anyone or what that exact age difference should be!

Let’s take a closer look at what the positives are for dating an older woman!


For finding that right relationship it starts with attraction, connection and who you may click with.

Older women won’t be having you paying $20 cover charges at clubs that are a waste of money and time for one LOL

Now let’s check out some additional good aspects of dating an older woman:

**Disclaimer in these positive and challenging points. I am referring to  older women, not all and it’s to each individual person and situation.


Guys, I had to put this point first as it’s reality how the male brain thinks 🙂 and I had to get this  fact out there to all of you!

In an article in Consumer Health Digest, women reach their sexual peak anywhere between their 40’s to 50’s depending on the individual.

Studies have shown that women are more sexual in the 40’s than any other age span.

Plus older women are going to be more experienced and know what they do and don’t like.

Watch out they may teach you a thing or two as well!

I will leave that all right here for you guys! LOL



Older woman have been in their careers for some time and possibly working their way to executive level positions.

Most women aren’t trying to figure out what they want to be when they grow up.

Women at this point may also have their own businesses too.

You can have your own space, time, hobbies as she wants that for herself too.

A man won’t have to pay the entire way or to take care of them as these women are looking for a true partner and partnership.

She doesn’t need you, she wants you.

This can be a stress relief to most men and just to have the ability to relax and enjoy each other.


Women as they age feel more confident, sexy and have a better self-esteem than in their 20’s or 30’s.

It is amazing what 5-10 years can teach in all areas and aspects of your life.

Older women are over the games and looking for you to leave your games for your X-Box!

They know what they do and don’t want in their life as they have experienced and lived through many ups and downs.

It is not all about them, being needy and wanting attention as they have grown and gone through that period in their lives.

An older woman will cook instead of make reservations every night! They know a way to man’s heart is through their stomach:)

Conversation & Fun

You will find that you can carry on a long meaningful conversation and talk about a variety of topics with an older woman.

It isn’t about materialistic things or talking about the last meal they posted on Facebook or Instragram.

Older woman are straight to the point and more willing to express their feelings and needs.

They also like to have fun and be adventurous, but they don’t need to be going to the clubs and be busy every minute of every day.

Especially on a vacation,they can be content in relaxing on the beach or going out to dinner and a night on the town.

They don’t need to be making every minute count and running around like a college student’s first time on a spring break

vacation in Mexico doing wet t-shirt contests LOL



I don’t believe in necessarily negatives in life, but challenges.

Let’s check out what some of those may be in dating an older woman:

Tick Tock

So the most obvious one of dating an older woman is the biological clock.

Nothing any woman can do about that fact as the pressure of age and still possibly wanting a baby factor is indeed ticking.

This may scare some younger men away as some older woman can have that conversation out of the gate, as they do not have time to waste.

If you are a woman 40+ years of age, it does need to be talking point sooner than later.

You never know as some women are done having their children, the thought of having one has passed for them, so you do need to talk about it as you never know.

There are a lot of guys that do what to have children, but depending on age may not be ready for some time.

ROARRRR–Cougar Alert

Let’s face it, most think if a woman dates a younger man they are labeled a cougar!

There are even dating sites and apps out there for it.

They see it as the woman trying to gain control and manipulate a younger man.

I had an experience in my own dating life, as I was getting to know a man that was 18 years younger than myself.

There was zero intentions of manipulating or controlling him. I was interested in him and the age didn’t bother us. He was a very nice guy, it just didn’t work out for us partly due to distance.

Society does put a cougar title out there so it can make it much more challenging.

In my opinion, you do what you want, because at the end of the day it’s your life!



Life happens for everyone, but for someone who is 45 versus someone who is 25 that can be very different.

We all have experiences, past and baggage at all different levels.

There can be ex-boyfriends, ex-husbands, children, step children, business, debt just to name a few.

I am not saying that you have to deal with any or all these aspects of baggage, but that is difference between someone has

lived some years of life versus a younger woman a year or two out of college.

Health & Age

Even though women can be secure in the older age the aspect of the younger woman is reality. For some it can be that looming fear that they will get traded in for something younger and hotter.

This could turn into jealousy or being some what possessive. Aging can be tough and insecurity can come into play.

Not always of course, but dating someone older they could have some health issues and or looking to retire sooner than later

That sheds a very different light on time, money and experiences wanted out of life.

It’s all subjects that should be addressed so there are no surprises along the way.


I do believe the good aspects of dating an older woman will outweigh the challenges! Of course one will never know until you test those waters for yourself!

Be prepared that people in your life are going to talk and have something to say about it.

Don’t get it twisted women want to date “men” not “boys” there is a HUGE difference.

If you want a woman who knows what they want, will appreciate you, not high maintenance, why not try dating an older woman?

Cheers to the dating bliss!

Would love to hear from you!






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