why do men disappear

Why Do Men Disappear–Have You Experienced Ghosting?

By Noell Romatowski

10.1.18-Why do men disappear? Have you experienced ghosting from someone you liked or were dating? Explore this article to maybe get a better idea of why men vanish.

What Is Ghosting?

You meet this great guy and things are going awesome!

There is some few wonderful dates, amazing conversation and you feel the two of you are on the same page to where things are going.

Than “POOF” he disappears!

Ghosting is breaking off a relationship by ceasing all communication and contact with the former partner without any apparent,as well as ignoring the former partner’s attempts to reach out or communicate.

In your mind you try to come up with 100 reasons or even excuses to why he disappeared. You try calling him, texting and you hear crickets. Like you didn’t even exist.

It’s so painful and hurtful. Why waste your time if all they were planning on doing was to disappear?

Most times I don’t think men know they are going to ghost you, unless of course they are a player, which will be discussed later in this article.

Casper-The Ghost

Have you experienced a Casper or two in your dating life?

I know I have and it probably is one of the most hurtful and frustrating experiences in dating. It sucks!

Let’s take a look at some reasons why men disappear.

They Found Someone Else

Harsh truth and not one you want to hear when you really are vibing this guy.

It’s hard to get into a state of mind that there are more fish in the sea at this point.

You deserve the very best! He is out there if you haven’t met him already:)

He’s Just Not That In To You

This hurts the most and not that they have the balls to tell you directly, but he just is not that into you.

I don’t know about you, even though it’s not what I would want to hear,but at least be direct.

He gives himself an out that because you only went on a few dates, he thinks there wasn’t that much time invested and he can walk away without an explanation.

Busy With Work

He got lost in his career and been working so much that he hasn’t had the time to reach out to you.

Yes he may have a good time with you, but his career easily can take over.

Do you really want to be with someone who doesn’t make you a priority ?

We are all busy, have careers and have things happening in our lives.

Always remember that one will find the time for the things that are important to them, always.


He Got What He Wanted

Many men do enjoy the chase and challenge to get a woman to like them and fall for them.

In tandem with that, if you gave up the cookie to him as well as he got what he wanted.

The saying that we all heard,”Hit it and quit it”, is exactly would be his reason for turning into Casper.

It’s difficult, as when you are intimate with someone you feel that it was moving on to the next level, not him turning into disappearing act.

Emotional Baggage

Be happy they ran away and ghosted.

If this man has a lot of emotional baggage as he hasn’t dealt with or let go of you don’t want to date him anyways.

He may have a great time with you on dates and tells you numerous times. Than he gets home and the past starts to creep in.

These men really are still carrying around with them their past break-ups and what they went through.

You may present to them as a great girl and potential commitment and that scares the hell out of them.

So they pick and run! They find it easier to keep running than address their feelings and past.


Avoiding The Conversation

Some men aren’t the best communicators and some just don’t want to look or be known as the “jerk”.

So instead of being upfront and honest about how they may be feeling they would rather ghost than have that conversation.

You can be grateful he disappeared as can you imagine, having a long term relationship with someone who can’t talk about their feelings.

Avoid the avoiders!

Play on Player

He wants to collect women and is not the commitment type.

Seeing you as a good potential woman, but he has ZERO intention of settling down to marriage and that life you may have expressed or been expressing to him.

Being played sucks! Play on player.


Time to Move On

It’s very hard to have someone ghost on you and not reply or give any explanation to why.

I know I am a person that wants to have validation and understanding to why something has happened.

Ghosting leaves you wondering who, what, why and when. Possibly even blaming yourself.

Would the emotional wreck of guy really be there ever for you?

The avoider would never want to talk about anything right?

Would you ever be priority to a guy that puts work or anything in his life first?

Let’s all look at the ghosters that they are doing us a favor and we can be grateful to have the space now in our lives to find Mr. Right!

Would love to hear from you–noell@thedatingbliss.com







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